Bringing up kids. Welcome to a parent's view on the ever difficult task of bringing up children in the 21st Century. Not necessarily a very interesting subject but one which effects all of us at some time in our lifes.(unless you have earlier planned not to have children) I have always wanted to be a good father.I wanted to attend my children's PTA meetings and be an active PTA member.In the 11years my son and daughter have been in primary and secondary schools,I have never attended PTA meetings much less becoming an active member. Why? My wife attends the PTA meetings,not very active but she does try.The wife also drives the children to and from school.I have somehow left the schooling part of bringing up kids to the wife.Mommy arranges the tuition , extra classes and other activities e.g guitar and piano lessons.Daddy is the money bag. I must be one of those old fashioned Chinese fathers who believe that the father's main responsibility is to provide food on the table and clothes on the backs of the loved ones.Yes I love my kids very much but I have never said it out loud to my kids that I love them. It must be upbringing.I know that my parents love me.They provided me with whatever was needed and their concern even till this day of our health and well being shows.My parents did not need to tell me that they love me.I know by they actions, and actions does speak louder than words.